This is for the softBois who unapologetically center themselves,Boys constantly questioning why,Men who invest more in accountabilityThan protecting masculinity This … More
Tag: Trans
About being transgender and “transitioning”
Boundaries: Polyamory Video Series Episode 2
Dear Nyla (a poem)
Dear Nyla, I wish it wasn’t true I wish it wasn’t you Wish there was something more we could do … More
Published in ERATO!
I am very excited to share that an excerpt of the novel I am working on is published in ERATO, … More
Living As Nomads Abroad
The US government has issued an advisory for all Americans abroad to return or shelter in place. We are in … More
Passing As Male
It has been over four months since I stopped taking testosterone. At times I find myself hyperaware of it. It … More
So Many Changes
It has been so long since I blogged regularly. Lots has changed recently. Here’s a few updates… I stopped taking … More
Everything In Moderation
There’s a saying I like that goes everything in moderation, including moderation. The saying reminds me not to worry too … More
What Happened To the Girl (a poem)
Denial is a girl in the dark Longing for the boy/ they Are hiding from the mirror / Denial is … More
First Time Trying New Testosterone & IM Injection
A little while back I was worrying about what will happen when I run out of my supply of testosterone. … More
It’s About More Than Abortion
A lot of people are talking about abortion being women’s rights and reproductive rights for people who aren’t women. Not … More
Why Is Society Complacent When Trans Women Are Murdered?
Muhlaysia Booker, was shot and killed over the weekend. She survived a brutal jumping (the attack video went viral) weeks … More
3 Simple Ways To Use Masculine Privilege For Good
Most societies in the world are patriarchal where men are given more power. It’s a fact that manifests itself in … More
Teenage Sexual Trauma
Trigger warning: sexual assault | A little while ago, I realized someone from my past was following me on social … More
Polyamory
Our culture promotes the idea that everyone should find one person who is “the one.” The one to marry and … More
I Love My Titties
My story doesn’t look like the typical narrative in the mainstream for people transitioning. I don’t need surgery. I was … More
Resolution
My partner encouraged me to go into the pharmacy and bring my testosterone. We went together and after three failed … More
Decision Time
We will max out our Colombian tourist visas come June. So we have to head out to another country unless … More
We submitted to Tiny Desk Contest!!
We’ve been making music together for a long time, but we haven’t always shared it with the world. Over the … More
“Land Is Free” (a music video)
Every border is a lie!! I wrote this February 28th, inspired by our experience living abroad and reflecting on the … More
Writing My Book
I don’t know how much I should say about my book in progress… Technically it’s not a full manuscript yet. … More
Two Guitar Freestyles (Videos)
Playing guitar truly soothes my soul! I was able to have this guitar for 59.000 Colombian pesos ($20) while in … More
1 Year On Testosterone & Transition Timeline
Success in transitioning isn’t measured by the notion of passing. It is measured in peace of mind. It has been … More
Buying Medicine Abroad
Will I have enough pills to last me? Should I pack my entire supply in carry-on? If I run out, … More
Always On the Go!
Counting my blessings after another day. Mindful gratitude, being thankful for all that is and is yet to come, has … More
Airport TSA Experience as a Non-Binary Trans Person
“Are you a man or woman?” The TSA agent asked me with a puzzled look. My scan showed the groin … More
“Control” (a Poem)
I take a dose Twice a day In a world Where I’m scared Someone would Take my life away I … More
If I Knew Then & Good News!
When I didn’t understand my identity and felt nothing but angst and shame I never thought I would be marching … More
“Love Everyday” Guitar Freestyle Video
Lyrics: Wouldn’t it be great If we could all love everyday All our problems gone away World so full of … More
“What’s the Secret?” Guitar Freestyle Video
Having fun with an acoustic freestyle. This was actually a week ago, on Mother’s Day. It was a good day … More
Binary Public Bathrooms
I usually still go to the Women’s room if there is only the two options. Yesterday, the Women’s room was … More
Writing My Novel & Meeting My Soulmate
I outlined what I have written plus the rest of Part One. And I’ve started in on writing again. The … More
Chill Days
Just a little documentation of a nice time, taking a walk in nature. Grateful for good days! Peace, Kei ©2018 … More
Healing Doesn’t Mean Feeling Better
Not right away at least. Ever heard the phrase, “going through it…”? Well in order to get through it, you … More
Watching “Venus Boyz” Again
The first time I saw this documentary film by Gabriel Baur was around 2008 on the LOGO network I think. … More
3 Months on T
Here is a list of changes I have noticed: The first change I noticed was in my skin, it is … More
Writing My Sci-Fi Manuscript
I’m holding myself accountable to it. My goal is to finish the manuscript I began writing in 2015 by the … More
Rereading “The Red Tent”
I first read Anita Diamant’s The Red Tent, ten years ago. I rushed through the book within a week, living … More
Call Me Kei
It happened at the clinic again. This time I was waiting to meet with my new medical social worker for … More
Pretty Boy Realness
One day as a kid, I remember hearing the term “pretty boy” used. It was part compliment directed to the … More
Let’s Talk About Sex
We went to a performance Monday night after my therapy appointment. We had a lot of fun and it was … More
Cannabis: the Benefits vs the Stigma
“And what about the marijuana?” she asks, glancing from the computer screen where she takes notes on my mental health. … More
Trying to Make Things Right
When first starting hormone therapy, I wasn’t met with the reaction I idealized in my mind for all the years … More
The Awkward Moment That Never Came
Picture this: two dudes with the same car chumming it up over their beloved vehicles while pumping gas. Only one … More
Liebster Award Questions pt 2
Thank you to Brixton Jaxx at Building Brix blog for the nomination and Nathan at Self-Made Originality for the second … More
SUAVE Trans Nominated for a Liebster Award
Thank you to Brixton Jaxx at Building Brix blog for the nomination and Nathan at Self-Made Originality for the second … More
Birth/Legal Name vs Chosen Name
I had a dream recently someone called me by my birth name at an open mic. I couldn’t get up … More
Coping With Internal Mental Health Shame
This is not a post about external stigma. This is a post about coping with internal shame of behaviors from … More
Why SUAVE?
Acronym aside, I chose the word suave because it has been used as a positive description for masculinity. But it … More
Change Can Be Scary
Change can bring up fear. Even if the fears are rational, the emotion of fear can cause irrationality. But change … More
Don’t Believe the Hype: My Transgender Perspective on “Nonbinary”
The term nonbinary has become more used in our culture. California has added it as a third gender option. Yes, … More
There Will Be Blood
So far none of my shots have bled more than a droplet. It’s an injection, so pressure should be applied … More
We Met Online 10 Years Ago
Today marks the day we first began talking. I found myself deeply in love with my soulmate at the tender … More
“Are You Someone Else?”: Living with Dissociative Identity Disorder
Content warning: sexual trauma | Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), split or multiple personalities as it has been called, may be … More
I Always Felt Different…
(Photo of me as a kid taken by my brother) Coming back to this topic after my earlier post where … More
Two Spirit- An Indigenous Recognition
(Photo by GWS of me in Belize last year) I recently had the good fortune to be present for a … More
“You’re not special/No one cares…”: Reframing Negative Self Talk
In moderation, this particular negative self talk can actually alleviate my anxiety. No, I’m not a special case being nonbinary, … More
Note to My Past Selves
In the spirit of this new moon in Aquarius and lunar new year (Chinese year of the dog), this note … More
Sunday Is T day & How I Got Here
(Photo I took of myself today) I was anxious before this injection because last week it hurt pretty bad for … More
Old Photos & Healing Wounds
(Photo I took of a burning photo) Content Warning: sexual trauma| Cleaning out some things the other day, I found … More
A Glimpse Into the Future
(Throwback B&W photo of me in Nov 2013, taken by G or me) I’ve scoured forums and blogs looking for … More
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