This is for the softBois who unapologetically center themselves,Boys constantly questioning why,Men who invest more in accountabilityThan protecting masculinity This … More
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queer trans person of color blog
Boundaries: Polyamory Video Series Episode 2
Polyamory Video Series: Intro
Published in ERATO!
I am very excited to share that an excerpt of the novel I am working on is published in ERATO, … More
Living As Nomads Abroad
The US government has issued an advisory for all Americans abroad to return or shelter in place. We are in … More
Everything In Moderation
There’s a saying I like that goes everything in moderation, including moderation. The saying reminds me not to worry too … More
What Happened To the Girl (a poem)
Denial is a girl in the dark Longing for the boy/ they Are hiding from the mirror / Denial is … More
First Time Trying New Testosterone & IM Injection
A little while back I was worrying about what will happen when I run out of my supply of testosterone. … More
It’s About More Than Abortion
A lot of people are talking about abortion being women’s rights and reproductive rights for people who aren’t women. Not … More
Why Is Society Complacent When Trans Women Are Murdered?
Muhlaysia Booker, was shot and killed over the weekend. She survived a brutal jumping (the attack video went viral) weeks … More
3 Simple Ways To Use Masculine Privilege For Good
Most societies in the world are patriarchal where men are given more power. It’s a fact that manifests itself in … More
Teenage Sexual Trauma
Trigger warning: sexual assault | A little while ago, I realized someone from my past was following me on social … More
Polyamory
Our culture promotes the idea that everyone should find one person who is “the one.” The one to marry and … More
I Love My Titties
My story doesn’t look like the typical narrative in the mainstream for people transitioning. I don’t need surgery. I was … More
Resolution
My partner encouraged me to go into the pharmacy and bring my testosterone. We went together and after three failed … More
Decision Time
We will max out our Colombian tourist visas come June. So we have to head out to another country unless … More
We submitted to Tiny Desk Contest!!
We’ve been making music together for a long time, but we haven’t always shared it with the world. Over the … More
“Land Is Free” (a music video)
Every border is a lie!! I wrote this February 28th, inspired by our experience living abroad and reflecting on the … More
Trouble Sleeping (a poem)
A night like now/ buzzing with energy Sleepless at half past three Dogs howling/ roosters calling Wind blowing the sea … More
Writing My Book
I don’t know how much I should say about my book in progress… Technically it’s not a full manuscript yet. … More
Two Guitar Freestyles (Videos)
Playing guitar truly soothes my soul! I was able to have this guitar for 59.000 Colombian pesos ($20) while in … More
1 Year On Testosterone & Transition Timeline
Success in transitioning isn’t measured by the notion of passing. It is measured in peace of mind. It has been … More
Buying Medicine Abroad
Will I have enough pills to last me? Should I pack my entire supply in carry-on? If I run out, … More
“Frankie & Alice” A Movie Depicting Dissociative Identity Disorder
Produced by and starring Halle Berry, “Frankie & Alice” gives a glimpse into what it’s like to suffer from Dissociative … More
Always On the Go!
Counting my blessings after another day. Mindful gratitude, being thankful for all that is and is yet to come, has … More
“Control” (a Poem)
I take a dose Twice a day In a world Where I’m scared Someone would Take my life away I … More
If I Knew Then & Good News!
When I didn’t understand my identity and felt nothing but angst and shame I never thought I would be marching … More
“Love Everyday” Guitar Freestyle Video
Lyrics: Wouldn’t it be great If we could all love everyday All our problems gone away World so full of … More
“What’s the Secret?” Guitar Freestyle Video
Having fun with an acoustic freestyle. This was actually a week ago, on Mother’s Day. It was a good day … More
“Dirty Computer” Janelle Monáe’s Emotion Picture
After watching this 49 minute film on Youtube, I’m a fan. I wasn’t a fan before this album. What rubbed … More
Janelle Monáe “Came Out” But Kodie Shane Never Needed To
In case you missed it, amidst World and American Pop News…thinking of The Waffle House multiple shooting, the Amazonian grandmother … More
Binary Public Bathrooms
I usually still go to the Women’s room if there is only the two options. Yesterday, the Women’s room was … More
Writing My Novel & Meeting My Soulmate
I outlined what I have written plus the rest of Part One. And I’ve started in on writing again. The … More
Ibeyi Live in Concert!
Twins Lisa-Kaindé Diaz and Naomi Diaz, aka Ibeyi, rocked a concert last night! And I had the amazing experience of … More
Chill Days
Just a little documentation of a nice time, taking a walk in nature. Grateful for good days! Peace, Kei ©2018 … More
Healing Doesn’t Mean Feeling Better
Not right away at least. Ever heard the phrase, “going through it…”? Well in order to get through it, you … More
Watching “Venus Boyz” Again
The first time I saw this documentary film by Gabriel Baur was around 2008 on the LOGO network I think. … More
3 Months on T
Here is a list of changes I have noticed: The first change I noticed was in my skin, it is … More
Writing My Sci-Fi Manuscript
I’m holding myself accountable to it. My goal is to finish the manuscript I began writing in 2015 by the … More
Freeway Pedestrian: a Scene of Collective Trauma
Content warning: Suicide | We saw a young looking individual standing in the middle lane with his back to oncoming … More
Compassion & Coping Cards
My therapist is helping me using the CBT mode: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I went in with an open mind and … More
Rereading “The Red Tent”
I first read Anita Diamant’s The Red Tent, ten years ago. I rushed through the book within a week, living … More
Call Me Kei
It happened at the clinic again. This time I was waiting to meet with my new medical social worker for … More
Pretty Boy Realness
One day as a kid, I remember hearing the term “pretty boy” used. It was part compliment directed to the … More
Let’s Talk About Sex
We went to a performance Monday night after my therapy appointment. We had a lot of fun and it was … More
Cannabis: the Benefits vs the Stigma
“And what about the marijuana?” she asks, glancing from the computer screen where she takes notes on my mental health. … More
Trying to Make Things Right
When first starting hormone therapy, I wasn’t met with the reaction I idealized in my mind for all the years … More
The Awkward Moment That Never Came
Picture this: two dudes with the same car chumming it up over their beloved vehicles while pumping gas. Only one … More
Liebster Award Questions pt 2
Thank you to Brixton Jaxx at Building Brix blog for the nomination and Nathan at Self-Made Originality for the second … More
SUAVE Trans Nominated for a Liebster Award
Thank you to Brixton Jaxx at Building Brix blog for the nomination and Nathan at Self-Made Originality for the second … More
Birth/Legal Name vs Chosen Name
I had a dream recently someone called me by my birth name at an open mic. I couldn’t get up … More
Coping With Internal Mental Health Shame
This is not a post about external stigma. This is a post about coping with internal shame of behaviors from … More
Why SUAVE?
Acronym aside, I chose the word suave because it has been used as a positive description for masculinity. But it … More
Change Can Be Scary
Change can bring up fear. Even if the fears are rational, the emotion of fear can cause irrationality. But change … More
Don’t Believe the Hype: My Transgender Perspective on “Nonbinary”
The term nonbinary has become more used in our culture. California has added it as a third gender option. Yes, … More
There Will Be Blood
So far none of my shots have bled more than a droplet. It’s an injection, so pressure should be applied … More
We Met Online 10 Years Ago
Today marks the day we first began talking. I found myself deeply in love with my soulmate at the tender … More
“Are You Someone Else?”: Living with Dissociative Identity Disorder
Content warning: sexual trauma | Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), split or multiple personalities as it has been called, may be … More
I Always Felt Different…
(Photo of me as a kid taken by my brother) Coming back to this topic after my earlier post where … More
Two Spirit- An Indigenous Recognition
(Photo by GWS of me in Belize last year) I recently had the good fortune to be present for a … More
“You’re not special/No one cares…”: Reframing Negative Self Talk
In moderation, this particular negative self talk can actually alleviate my anxiety. No, I’m not a special case being nonbinary, … More
Note to My Past Selves
In the spirit of this new moon in Aquarius and lunar new year (Chinese year of the dog), this note … More
Sunday Is T day & How I Got Here
(Photo I took of myself today) I was anxious before this injection because last week it hurt pretty bad for … More
Old Photos & Healing Wounds
(Photo I took of a burning photo) Content Warning: sexual trauma| Cleaning out some things the other day, I found … More
A Glimpse Into the Future
(Throwback B&W photo of me in Nov 2013, taken by G or me) I’ve scoured forums and blogs looking for … More