This is for the softBois who unapologetically center themselves,Boys constantly questioning why,Men who invest more in accountabilityThan protecting masculinity This … More
Tag: Nonbinary
Passing As Male
It has been over four months since I stopped taking testosterone. At times I find myself hyperaware of it. It … More
Everything In Moderation
There’s a saying I like that goes everything in moderation, including moderation. The saying reminds me not to worry too … More
What Happened To the Girl (a poem)
Denial is a girl in the dark Longing for the boy/ they Are hiding from the mirror / Denial is … More
First Time Trying New Testosterone & IM Injection
A little while back I was worrying about what will happen when I run out of my supply of testosterone. … More
It’s About More Than Abortion
A lot of people are talking about abortion being women’s rights and reproductive rights for people who aren’t women. Not … More
3 Simple Ways To Use Masculine Privilege For Good
Most societies in the world are patriarchal where men are given more power. It’s a fact that manifests itself in … More
I Love My Titties
My story doesn’t look like the typical narrative in the mainstream for people transitioning. I don’t need surgery. I was … More
Writing My Book
I don’t know how much I should say about my book in progress… Technically it’s not a full manuscript yet. … More
Two Guitar Freestyles (Videos)
Playing guitar truly soothes my soul! I was able to have this guitar for 59.000 Colombian pesos ($20) while in … More
1 Year On Testosterone & Transition Timeline
Success in transitioning isn’t measured by the notion of passing. It is measured in peace of mind. It has been … More
Buying Medicine Abroad
Will I have enough pills to last me? Should I pack my entire supply in carry-on? If I run out, … More
Airport TSA Experience as a Non-Binary Trans Person
“Are you a man or woman?” The TSA agent asked me with a puzzled look. My scan showed the groin … More
“Control” (a Poem)
I take a dose Twice a day In a world Where I’m scared Someone would Take my life away I … More
If I Knew Then & Good News!
When I didn’t understand my identity and felt nothing but angst and shame I never thought I would be marching … More
“What’s the Secret?” Guitar Freestyle Video
Having fun with an acoustic freestyle. This was actually a week ago, on Mother’s Day. It was a good day … More
Janelle Monáe “Came Out” But Kodie Shane Never Needed To
In case you missed it, amidst World and American Pop News…thinking of The Waffle House multiple shooting, the Amazonian grandmother … More
Binary Public Bathrooms
I usually still go to the Women’s room if there is only the two options. Yesterday, the Women’s room was … More
Watching “Venus Boyz” Again
The first time I saw this documentary film by Gabriel Baur was around 2008 on the LOGO network I think. … More
3 Months on T
Here is a list of changes I have noticed: The first change I noticed was in my skin, it is … More
Rereading “The Red Tent”
I first read Anita Diamant’s The Red Tent, ten years ago. I rushed through the book within a week, living … More
Call Me Kei
It happened at the clinic again. This time I was waiting to meet with my new medical social worker for … More
Pretty Boy Realness
One day as a kid, I remember hearing the term “pretty boy” used. It was part compliment directed to the … More
Let’s Talk About Sex
We went to a performance Monday night after my therapy appointment. We had a lot of fun and it was … More
Cannabis: the Benefits vs the Stigma
“And what about the marijuana?” she asks, glancing from the computer screen where she takes notes on my mental health. … More
Trying to Make Things Right
When first starting hormone therapy, I wasn’t met with the reaction I idealized in my mind for all the years … More
The Awkward Moment That Never Came
Picture this: two dudes with the same car chumming it up over their beloved vehicles while pumping gas. Only one … More
Birth/Legal Name vs Chosen Name
I had a dream recently someone called me by my birth name at an open mic. I couldn’t get up … More
Why SUAVE?
Acronym aside, I chose the word suave because it has been used as a positive description for masculinity. But it … More
Don’t Believe the Hype: My Transgender Perspective on “Nonbinary”
The term nonbinary has become more used in our culture. California has added it as a third gender option. Yes, … More
I Always Felt Different…
(Photo of me as a kid taken by my brother) Coming back to this topic after my earlier post where … More
Two Spirit- An Indigenous Recognition
(Photo by GWS of me in Belize last year) I recently had the good fortune to be present for a … More
“You’re not special/No one cares…”: Reframing Negative Self Talk
In moderation, this particular negative self talk can actually alleviate my anxiety. No, I’m not a special case being nonbinary, … More
Sunday Is T day & How I Got Here
(Photo I took of myself today) I was anxious before this injection because last week it hurt pretty bad for … More
Old Photos & Healing Wounds
(Photo I took of a burning photo) Content Warning: sexual trauma| Cleaning out some things the other day, I found … More
A Glimpse Into the Future
(Throwback B&W photo of me in Nov 2013, taken by G or me) I’ve scoured forums and blogs looking for … More